Living in the moment. It is, supposedly, the key to happiness. I wouldn’t know – at least I didn’t know. Although I consider myself a pretty happy person, for my whole life I have been a person who lives in the next moment. I am great at telling my daughter to enjoy where she is. She has the rest of her life to work and to be married. Unfortunately, I am a fraud and this is a classic case of “do as I say, not as I do…”
I’ve tried. But for as long as I can remember, I have been this way. As a kid I couldn’t wait to get to the next grade and then to the next school. In college, I couldn’t wait to get out and start working. Then it was about looking toward the next promotion, the next job, getting married, buying a house, having a baby, when will she walk , when will she talk…you get the picture.
I try not to be a person who looks back. I did my share of it at times but ultimately found it didn’t really make anything different or better. Ah, but looking ahead, that’s a good thing, right? In many, many ways looking forward IS a good thing. We need to plan and set goals and prepare. But for me, I was living FOR the next moment and not stopping to take in what was happening now. I was pining more than preparing.
When I think of the idea of creativity I have to admit that the first thing that comes to mind is a savant of painting, music or the written word. Growing up, it seemed that the kids that had exceptional visual or performing arts skills were considered “creative” while those that had keen problem solving and logic skills were called “clever”. In an age where incredible visual art can be created with technology that does not require the ability to draw a single line or stunning audio that can be crafted without knowledge of a single note, the line between creativity and cleverness is perceptibly blurred. If we accept the fact that creativity and cleverness are two sides of the same coin, how do we raise our children to embody this new concept of creativity?
Our precious little girls. We want so badly to keep them safe and keep them from getting hurt. How can such a natural instinct on our part really be detrimental to their self-esteem?
Such is the claim of Caroline Paul who recently wrote an editorial for the New York Times titled: “It’s Not Cute To Be Scared.” Caroline, a former firefighter and author of the new book The Gutsy Girl, Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure, talked about how insulted she felt when, referring to her experience as a firefighter, she would get the question “Aren’t you scared?” Well yes, she admits, but the insult comes from the fact that her male counterparts were not asked the same question. Somehow the implication was that, because she is a woman, fear made it perfectly acceptable for her to not pursue a physically demanding and dangerous profession, yet men are expected to “power through” the same fear. Reading about her experience, I completely understand her contempt.
The Minefield of Being Your Daughter’s Role Model: Part 1
I did not plan on writing this post this morning when I was going over my to do list. My plan was to write a post for the girls that talked about the fashion industry’s changing definition of beauty. I was inspired by an article that promoted the changing face of high fashion models. Gone is the “classically beautiful” face replaced by a more unique, distinctive profile.
I thought, “this is great, what a great message to girls that even the fashion industry is embracing individuality and letting go of their unrealistic ideal of beauty.” As I looked at the images of this new breed of models I had a second thought; not only were they the same stick-thin waifs that have dominated runways for years, they continue to be photographed with the same hollow, sullen expression on their face. Hmmm, is this really an example I want to hold up to our girls?
We’re so glad you’re here. If you’ve found us you probably have a girl in your life that you love and support. Our goal here is to be an additional source of support, strength and empowerment to you and your GirlNation girl.
The GirlNation movement was founded on a pledge encouraging girls to “Be Your Own Girl.” We developed the pledge as a mantra for girls to
empower themselves and each other. Our mission is to encourage girls to embrace social responsibility and the core values of curiosity, tolerance, loyalty, and confident, independent, decision-making.